divorce coaching
 

Meri Arnett-Kremian's Professional Memberships and Affiliations

Member, Washington State Bar Association and WSBA Family Law Section

             
InviteChange-trained Transformational Life Coach


What's divorce coaching and how would it benefit me?

Divorce coaching is a relationship between a professional coach and a client that focuses in part on increasing the client's ability to manage the divorce transition with grace and integrity. Adjusting to separation and divorce is often challenging: you can no longer count on the future you once believed in, but can't yet envision a new one. It may feel like the terms and conditions of your life have been rewritten without any input from you. It can seem at times as if you're no longer in charge of your own life.


Coaching is a great place to recover your personal power and consciously choose how to recreate your life. You'll decide what to concentrate on during individual sessions, depending on your concerns at the time. You'll explore possibilities, gain clarity about who you are, what you want, and how you want to show up in the world. When unexpected circumstances make you stumble, we'll work together to help you regain your footing.


The divorce coaching relationship provides a place to process the multitude of decisions you have to make during this important life transition. While a coach does not provide legal advice to a client, often a coaching relationship facilitates the client's working relationship with his or her attorney and enhances the client's experience of the divorce legal process. With very limited exceptions set forth in our coaching contract, coaching is a confidential relationship and a safe place to be honest and open about yourself and your life.


A professional coaching relationship offers a safe, affirming place to



  • focus on yourself and take stock of your life: what works and what doesn’t
  • explore possibilities, see things with new eyes, and use fear to inform decisions, not subvert them
  • create new, values-driven intentions
  • develop choices and actions supporting your intentions and put them into play
  • confront limiting beliefs and develop more supportive ones
  • move forward proactively, not reactively
  • design accountability systems to create movement toward your goals      

 

How does coaching with Meri work?

We build our coaching partnership via phone. You place a call to me at your scheduled time. We start with an "exploratory" appointment that lasts about two hours. During that time, we'll delve into issues raised in your responses to an initial questionnaire. You'll have a chance to ask questions and make some preliminary decisions about the scope and focus of coaching. After that initial phone call, we'll have telephone sessions for 3 to 6 months, depending on the coaching package we create together. During that time, we'll occasionally pause and take stock, so you can assess and celebrate your progress toward your goals. There will be opportunities to explore new areas as your life begins to change.


I'll be your sounding board. identify limiting beliefs that may be holding you back, and keep you centered on present and future instead of belaboring the past. (This focus differentiates coaching from most therapy. So does my belief that you're whole, capable, resourceful and creative -- even if you're temporarily stuck.) We'll concentrate on what you want, not what you don't. If you so choose, I'll act as your accountability partner, holding you responsible for making measurable progress toward your chosen goals. 


(To read feedback from people who've worked with Meri, click HERE.)


Why is Meri a great coach for helping people find their center during separation and divorce?

First, I have solid grounding in legal and psychological aspects of divorce. I'm a licensed attorney who practiced family law for years, seeing the impact of the divorce transition up close. Prior to law school, I worked as peer counseling skills trainer and crisis intervention counselor. This background comes in handy when working with people who feel like their lives have been turned upside-down because their intimate relationship has imploded.

But more to the point, I re-invented my own life after an unwanted divorce ended a 20+ year marriage. Because of my journey, I have some idea what you’re going through! Luckily, I had a great coach who guided me as I excavated my authentic self and rebuilt my life. It’s both a passion and a great honor to pay it forward by coaching others who are disoriented by the end of a marriage and seeking to forge a new path.

 

As a professional coach, I use my unique blend of life experience, wisdom, problem-solving skills, creativity, humor, and intuition to help clients see new options, hear the whispers of their hearts, and follow a path of their own creation toward the realization of their dreams.


(For more details about me, my coaching philosophy, my qualifications and my guding principles, click here.)